Caveat: I have no proof of this, but I believe it hard.
It’s rare that one quits something big without first quitting many times on something small.
Do you remember that essay project in school? It seemed so imposing until you wrote the first draft then got someone to give you feedback on it? Maybe it was something different, like quitting a habit. it seemed impossible until you saw a plan to ween yourself from a behavior and got someone to check up on your progress?
If you’re like me, there are many little things that lead up to big things. Too often, I’m thwarted in the little things because I’m thinking of the big thing. The small thing is really not that hard but the big thing looms large and seems impossible. In these cases, I find myself quitting little and failing big.
I propose that when I fail big it’s because I quit little; little quits led to a big quit. I didn’t believe in the big triumph and therefore couldn’t believe in the success of the little.
What if we reversed it? What if we start believing in the importance of the little things that seem possible rather than the big things that feel out of reach? We may find we succeed more and more in the little things and end up succeeding more and more in the bigs.
Start saying no to the little quits, and you start saying yes to the big successes.
What are your little quits?